Power is a Good Thing

image for blog entry

by Tova Kreps, LCSW

Power is the ability to act, to choose and to influence the world around us. It is one of our basic human needs. We start seeking power from infancy. A baby cries to get his mother to respond and feed him. The two year old tests her ability to do it her own way. The teenager wants the power of choice. The adult needs to know that he can act and influence. The loss of power is helplessness, one of the key components of trauma and a cause of depression.

We use our power for good when we create, make wise choices, or influence circumstances for the betterment of others. Our powerful strength should be used to protect and defend, to save, and to build. When we love proactively, we can powerfully influence others to feel good, to love back, and to thrive. When we listen well (click here for information on my ...

Read more

Posted in:

  • Domestic Violence

Tags:

  • Intentional Listening
  • domestic violence
  • influence for good
  • power
  • powerlessness

Clinician's thoughts on Netflix's 13 Reasons Why

image for blog entry

by Yasamin Nosrati-Shamloo, Student Intern 

Have you watched the Netflix series 13 reasons why? That had been the difficult to ignore question everyone asked me. I’m not one to easily jump on the Netflix bandwagon of popular shows, but I could sense that something about this particular series has struck a chord with a wide variety of people, so I finally caved and began my binge. The series is about a high school girl named Hannah, who records 13 reasons why she decided to end her life. As Hannah narrates her story through each episode, I was left feeling absolutely confused, frustrated, infuriated, and helpless. Each episode made me want to jump into the scene and put a stop to all the chaos. I desperately wanted to tell her that she still had reasons to live, despite the betrayal, ...

Read more

Posted in:

  • Suicide Prevention

Tags:

  • 13 reasons why
  • suicidal thoughts
  • suicide prevention

A Mother’s Present of Presence

image for blog entry

by Tova Kreps, LCSW

“I can do it myself”, says the little girl as her mother patiently watches the slow shoe-tying. “I can handle myself at the party,” says the teenager as his mother silently prays and says, “Of course you can.”

When we mothers love our children, not helping them too much can be a challenge of personal discipline and an art of wisdom. If a mother helps too much, it communicates to the child that she doesn’t believe that he can do it himself. Hovering and constant “helping” from parents actually communicates to a child that he is incapable of the task at hand, discouraging him and lowering his self confidence. Like helping a butterfly out of its cocoon, helping too much not only tells a child that he is weak, it actually will make him weak and incapable. On the other hand, not helping a child and allowing chronic failure and a lack of guidance in the world she lives in, leaves her feeling ...

Read more

Posted in:

  • Parenting

Tags:

  • healthy parenting
  • parenting

Loading...

Loading...

Loading...

Loading...

Loading...