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A Mother’s Present of Presence

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by Tova Kreps, LCSW

“I can do it myself”, says the little girl as her mother patiently watches the slow shoe-tying. “I can handle myself at the party,” says the teenager as his mother silently prays and says, “Of course you can.”

When we mothers love our children, not helping them too much can be a challenge of personal discipline and an art of wisdom. If a mother helps too much, it communicates to the child that she doesn’t believe that he can do it himself. Hovering and constant “helping” from parents actually communicates to a child that he is incapable of the task at hand, discouraging him and lowering his self confidence. Like helping a butterfly out of its cocoon, helping too much not only tells a child that he is weak, it actually will make him weak and incapable. On the other hand, not helping a child and allowing chronic failure and a lack of guidance in the world she lives in, leaves her feeling ...

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